Self-esteem plays such a pivotal role in the way we see ourselves and the world. We often base our self-worth on how well we’re doing at our job, how much money we make, and how productive we are. It can be exhausting chasing after success when we see it as the marker of our confidence, and it causes our self-esteem to constantly fluctuate as our circumstances at the office change.
But to be our best selves and thrive in the workplace, we need to establish self-esteem from our love and acceptance of ourselves. This way, we’ll always believe in our abilities even if coworkers or bosses doubt us, and we won’t compare our accomplishments and positions with others.
The process of rooting our self-esteem in truth requires mindfulness and awareness of how and where we currently seek our confidence. One powerful tool that can help bring our attention back to our innate self-worth, which doesn’t come from external achievements or others’ opinions, is repeating affirmations to ourselves. These affirmations remind us of the truths that we forget about, and gently steer our minds and hearts back in the right direction.
To make the most of an affirmation, first write down one that resonates with you and place it somewhere you frequently will see, or set a reminder to make time to say it to yourself. While it’s most effective to recite the affirmation aloud, you can also repeat it in your head or write it down. While saying the affirmation, breathe deeply and focus on the words of the affirmation. Repeat this practice a few times a day.
Here are three affirmations to start you off on your path to re-establishing healthy self-esteem.
Instead of trying to find our value in what we do and achieve, let’s remember that we’re already amazing because of our uniqueness and humanity, and that all the validation we crave can be found when we acknowledge and love ourselves. This frees us from the never-ending and dissatisfying search for approval from others, and instead we can put energy into loving people instead of making comparisons.
It’s easy and natural for us to be very aware of what’s wrong or negative about a situation or a person, but when we forget about all the positivity that’s equally present we remain stuck in a limiting mindset. To break free from this narrow perspective, we need to train ourselves to release the negativity holding us back from fully embracing ourselves.
One major root of low self-esteem is believing the lie that we’re inherently inadequate. This causes us to search for ways to prove our worth, and creates a shallow foundation on which our self-esteem can easily crumble if we fail. By reminding ourselves that we’re truly enough just as we are, we release ourselves from the pressure of perfection and find the peace of knowing that nothing we do can change our self-worth.